How to Plan a Good Memorial

friends having a memorial service in a barI came across this article the other day and I believe it does a wonderful job addressing one of the most common topics that comes up in the life of a funeral director – “How do I plan a good memorial?” – that specializes in providing affordable cremation services. It’s about having a “Good Goodbye”. I recommend you read the full blog article, “A Good Goodbye Cremation Ceremony Template,” by Funeral Celebrant Gail Rubin, Certified Thanatologist.

The article talks about how people choosing cremation frequently don’t have the same level of memorial as traditional funerals. I would say this is even more common with direct cremation. Although cremation (or direct cremation) is commonly chosen because of its affordability, it should not deter a family or loved ones gathering to honor their life.

Rubin shares a template in her article about how to organize your own memorial. “This ceremony template incorporates what I call the Four R’s of a Good Goodbye: Recognize the death; Remember the person; Reaffirm beliefs; and Release the spirit of the deceased,” said Rubin.

Rubin talks about the freedom a family has in choosing the type of service – that it can be upbeat, religious, humorous, formal, or casual. She points out that having clergy present isn’t required. Anyone who knew the loved one can facilitate the service.

There are some ideas (she calls components) that a family can use for ideas when they plan a service. A few of these include:

  • Playing their favorite music
  • Introducing the person who lived and died and possibly reading the obituary.
  • Telling stories about the deceased
  • Showing videos or photos
  • Scriptures such as the 23rd Psalm and Ecclesiastes 3:1

One of the services aCremation provides to assist with this important part of the grieving process is a “Goodbye Gathering.” It is designed to provide families a way to say their goodbyes prior to a direct cremation. Loved ones can gather at the crematory (with the deceased’s body present) and spend up to an hour saying their goodbyes and sharing memories together before the cremation occurs.

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Mary Beth Barnett

About Mary Beth Barnett

Mary Beth Barnett is a licensed Funeral Director in Texas. Her involvement with aCremation began before our doors opened – researching how we could provide affordable cremations and still keep quality and service standards high. Through this process, she developed a passion for working with families who are going through one of the most stressful phases of life – planning for death.

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